Friday, 17 November 2017

Making time for YOU

Hey, you. Yes, you!
You really matter.
I mean it.
My mum said to me once: "Focus on the people that are being kind to you, and if nobody's being kind to you, be kind to yourself." My mum is a very clever lady.

A lot of us spend the majority of our time looking out for others. We drop our own important things to help other people with their important things because of how much we care for them. Sometimes this can really hurt. Sometimes these other people don't realise how much of a sacrifice you have made for them. Sometimes we don't realise it ourselves. 

When did you last do something purely for you? When did you last tell your body how much you love it? 

Sometimes it's important to be selfish. It's a lesson I'm still struggling to get my head around, but one I think we can work on together.

I've had a little think, and of course, have made a list of a few simple ways to care for yourself. 

❤ Care for your skin
❤ Eat well (cake is essential)
❤ Aim for at least eight hours zzz
❤ Have some time away from your phone
❤ Meditate
❤ Think positive thoughts
❤ Remember your worth

That's all, and I hope it was of some use!

Lots of love, 
Marti xxx

Friday, 10 November 2017

Dear fifteen year old Marti

Dear fifteen year old Marti,

I want you to know that this year is going to be tough but also that you can make it through to the other side stronger than you could ever imagine.

Here's a cute picture of you. Aw, bless.
You’re doing wonderful things and you’re inspiring others. At fifteen years old; this is amazing. That presentation you did in English about Minimalism? Your teacher and other students still bring it up in lesson. All those hours spent in art enrichment? Your pieces are displayed in the corridors. That blog you’ve been writing for two years? You’ve inspired others to start writing too.

You are not your sister, and you never will be. People will compare you, especially at school, and sometimes you’ll feel like you’re worthless. You are not in any way worthless, Marti. You’re a different kind of awesome and people will soon realise that.

People are going to try and hurt you. People envy your contentment and want you to feel as dark and blue as they do. Stand firm with yourself and don’t let anybody tell you that you are a bad person. You are such a wonderful soul.

It’s totally okay to let yourself get the help you deserve. You’ll realise this, though it’ll take you a while. You’re never alone in the way you’re feeling and there is always somebody there to talk to.

Honesty and kindness are the greatest virtues of all. You’re often surrounded by dishonest, unkind people and this is really toxic. Don’t take what these people are saying to heart and learn from what they do. Aim to be the change you want to see in them.

 Finally, remember that it’s okay to put yourself first from time to time. You spend so much time worrying and looking out other people that it’s crushing your own happiness. You are not a burden and you deserve the love of everybody you have earnt it from.

Chin up chicken, you’re doing great :)

- 16 year old Marti xxx

Friday, 3 November 2017

Whitby Goth Weekend 2017

Just a few pictures from the weekend :)
Lots of love,
Marti xxx

Friday, 27 October 2017

Dear eleven year old Marti

Dear slightly older but still little Marti,

Things are a little confusing right now and your bubble is beginning to burst.The world is showing itself as a dark and horrible place and it's bringing you down with it. Marti, this is life. It's full of dark and horrible things, but you just have to look for the light.

There are wonderful people and things out there, you're just not searching hard enough. Some of the people you call friends aren't worth your time, but that's something you'll learn later. Put all your energy into your own happiness Marti and it will lead to a very happy place. 

The next few years are going to be difficult for you, but I have faith that you'll come out even more sparkly. Everybody is struggling, so be patient. Some final tips: don't cut your hair and love yourself as much as you love others. You are much a wonderful soul and you need to believe it. This webcam toy habit also really has to stop Marti, it's very embarrassing haha.

I've got your back kid ;)

Friday, 20 October 2017

"I'm a pusher Cady"

I hate revision.
I thought I'd put that out there before anybody gets the wrong impression. I also don't do brilliantly at school. There are some subjects that come easier to me, but also some that I really can't get my head around. 

It was our last day of term today and we got our reports. Although I'm doing okay; I think I could do a lot better. My teachers seem to expect me to do 'okay' and aren't really pushing me to do any better. I've realised that I need to be my own pusher.

I feel as though I'm scrambling around in the deep end, trying to keep myself from drowning. I'm predicted Cs or 5s  in most subjects, which puts me at the bottom of the higher tier. Those grades are still good, but I know in myself that I can do better. It's so easy to get caught up in a bubble of your own thoughts and not pay enough attention to the things that are screaming for your attention.

I'm not spending enough time  revising the subjects I find difficult, which I think is the main problem. That's why I've started scheduling my revision and prioritising weaker subjects. It's so important to figure out what works for YOU and to look after yourself. I'm telling myself this as much as I'm telling you as it's so easy to let your health slip when you're focused on something else.

Here's my schedule for tomorrow, just for some insight. I've tried to include a mixture of different subjects and formats of questions, whilst keeping breaks at an optimum.

·     Chemistry revision sheet
·         Break 
·         Physics revision quiz
·         English revision quiz
·         Break 
·         Physics exam style question
·         Break
·         English Literature exam style question

 I hope that this post has been of some use to somebody and that you all have a lovely half term!

Health and happiness,
Marti xxx

Friday, 13 October 2017

Reasons why I smiled today

  1. I had rice crispies for breakfast- always the best way to start a day.
  2. The sky is doing some amazing things, which never ceases to amaze me.
  3. The weather has been lovely and I wasn't blown away (literally) on my way to school.
  4. We got homework in English Literature and yes- that makes me very happy.
  5. We played five a side football in pe and it put everybody in a good mood.
  6. I finished my media coursework ahead of time and got to spend the lesson helping my friend catch up.
  7. I'm looking forward to a busy weekend.
  8. The leaves crunched under my feet when I walked.
  9. My friend's little sister gave me a hug before I said goodbye, and she's the cutest little thing!
  10. I've managed to squeeze in some time to write this post, which is what matters the most.
I hope you all have a really lovely weekend!
Lots of love,
Marti xxx